You see a boy coming after you in School, someone says 'Hey, that guy has a crush on you ' or 'He wants to know if he can have your number' and it is just so easy to say 'I don't even know him' and get the topic done with. That usually is the typical Scenario when the girl doesn't like him back. It is so easy for a girl to just ignore a guy who seems to be crazy about her. Doesn't even bother her at all, comes out of habit I believe. But the truth is, it never even occurs to her how hard it can actually be for the boy in question to actually come after her.
What do we think? Boys are suppose to be the manly gender, aren't they? It is their job to do the chase. It IS the Universal law that boys are supposed to be the one having to do all the work, right? So what is there in a proposal. It never occurs to a girl how hard it would be for a boy to come up to a complete stranger and place his trust on her, hoping the feeling would be mutual. Doesn't cross a girl's mind, what guts it takes for a boy to come up to her and actually tell her that he is in love with her. What grit it takes for someone to take the first step on the probability that whatever the relation, it might actually work out.
It is simple enough at first, a boy sees a girl that he thinks is pretty. Some come up to her and try establishing a relationship with her right then if he is confident enough. But for most, it takes on a very lengthy process. He first tries to find out everything about that girl - what her names is, what she likes, who she hangs out with, what she does - Calling up friends of friends who knows her, messaging ex-school mates he had long been out of touch with on the slim possibility that they 'might' know her or even know someone who knows her. Then comes the process of knowing her friends on the hopes that he might actually get an introduction with her. Furthermore a simple introduction is never ever enough to get to know her. He has to actually impress the girl for him to establish a relationship as close as he would like. Then there is this process of being her 'friend' - the one she can talk to whenever she needs someone but to be careful, if a boy messes this up, they will forever be stuck in this same image 'as a friend' and nothing more. Furthermore even after all these process of work and research, there is never a guarantee that she will actually accept him. He ask his 'angel' out only to be told 'I don't even know you that well' or 'You are just a friend', all these effort can actually go to waste. So much work rendered useless with a single line. It is never taken into account what that single line would do to him. He is a guy, 'boys are suppose to be strong, they should be fine, right?' and that ends the topic right there.
Of course, it is different these days once you have grown up. You see a girl and you don't immediately go on finding out everything about her or even be that direct in their approach to ask her out. Also you learn better to handle the rejection. But once upon a time you did do it and did face the same situation one way of other. Or even if you didn't, you certainly saw someone else take the fall. It can be horribly difficult to hold your heart out for someone when you don't even know if the girl cares enough for you, yet they do it, all the time and repeatedly at times. We never realy pay too much attention to anything unless we are the ones who has to go through all those hurts. I never realized how hard it would be but when I think about it, I understand now.
So this is for all the boys for having enough tenacity to go after the girl you actually care about. The chase can be so much harder than playing 'hard to get'. Although some girls could, most would not. Furthermore even if she did, she would be too impatience to have the same persistence that you do. So Thank you for doing all the chase, getting to know us and making us fall for you for it would realy be a different world otherwise.
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